The Three Stages of Love From Romance to Power Struggle to a Life Dance of Conscious Love. Here is a powerful study that helps you understand what it is that you are seeking when you enter into a romantic relationship. It is not romance novel fodder for the lonely hearts, it is factual and thoughtful. I hope you will read it in it's fullness.
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2011/02/the-3-stages-of-love-from-romance-to-power-struggle-to-a-life-dance-of-conscious-love/
"The bottom line is that unless you feel emotionally safe in relation to the other, your hearts are not open to fully give and receive love."
"When you fell in love, you viewed life through rose-colored lenses. You saw mostly one another’s perfections, shared your hearts willingly, told each other everything. You forgot your limitations, fears, and inhibitions. You felt loved and—connected, empowered and whole. You hoped it would last forever and thought, “This is how life should be!”
"What happened to bring you down to earth? The falling in love stage, alas, turns out to be only a preview of how a mature and genuine love relationship can be—once, that is, you and your partner develop the ability to consciously nurture your relationship, self and the other, with empathic compassion — especially in testy, stressful, challenging moments.
Lacking this ability, inevitably, things started to go awry. The veil of perfection dropped when your partner started to find fault with you, and as it turned out he or she had a few attributes you couldn’t bear either. In fact, the very traits you once admired in each other may now seem unbearable to each of you. When the veil of perfection lifted:
You entered the ‘power struggle’ stage.
In this stage, you lowered your expectations. You began to “expect” your partner would let you down. It seemed they were no longer willing, so you couldn’t trust them to cooperate or make you happy on their own."
"The bottom line is that unless you feel emotionally safe in relation to the other, your hearts are not open to fully give and receive love."
"The emotional bond created by your “romantic love” in the first stage that survives the “power struggle” of the second stage has an excellent chance of evolving into an infinitely more powerful, nurturing and gratifying connection.
A life dance of conscious love is one in which each partner takes complete and total responsibility for becoming a whole person in the relationship, a willing contributor in making conscious choices to cultivate and keep the relationship strong — in the safety of conscious-love."
The 3 Stages of Love — From Romance to Power Struggle to a Life Dance of Conscious Love is clear and supportive for people searching for the one relationship that they will share for their lifetime. It is one that is nurturing, powerful, satisfying and strong in the ideal and one that is worth the time to find in the long run.
The 3 Stages of Love — From Romance to Power Struggle to a Life Dance of Conscious Love is clear and supportive for people searching for the one relationship that they will share for their lifetime. It is one that is nurturing, powerful, satisfying and strong in the ideal and one that is worth the time to find in the long run.
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