Comparisons are nothing more than judgments that damage self-esteem. This truth is painful for many to admit. We are all given to making comparisons about ourselves, our children, religion, and so forth. The process is one that distances us from them. Here is a very well written article on this matter.
"Every day, we make comparisons, which is another way of saying we make judgments. Sometimes this is done consciously and other times subconsciously.
Every comparison we make has two possible outcomes. Either we feel like we're better than someone else, or we feel like we're worse than the person we're comparing ourselves to. These comparisons take place in every aspect of our lives, whether it's how many kids we have, how much money we make, or even what level of spirituality or calling we have."
http://www.mormontimes.com/article/21357/Comparisons-are-nothing-more-than-judgments-that-damage-self-esteem
"If we feel we're always better than someone else, what sin are we committing? Obviously the "sin of pride," which, by the way, does not increase our self-worth but may give us an emotional lift. This boost, however, is short-lived because we cannot feel better about ourselves over the long term when the assumption is based on the misfortune of others. Having a nicer car or a bigger home than someone else will never bring us true happiness. It's an illusion that far too many people fall victim to."
"On the other end of the scale, we have comparisons that leave us feeling less than someone else. In my experience, this category of judgments is more prevalent and therefore more damaging. If I feel like someone else is more successful, better looking, more popular, has a nicer looking body or is a better parent because their kids are better behaved, then where does that leave me?
If you are up to the challenge, I suggest that you take time to assess your life. Take a look at the various categories that are important and meaningful to you, and then go back in time like the examples above. Be honest in your assessments, and you'll discover areas of growth and improvement. Be kind and acknowledge your success, and you will feel better. By the same token, take a look at areas where things are not going in the direction you would like. Make a commitment to formulate a plan of action, and you'll see great results. Sometimes we might need someone to help us along the way, like a mentor or a coach or just a "walking buddy."
Comparisons are nothing more than judgments that damage self-esteem. The author has written a book about this topic of marriage that promises to offer tools and thoughts that can change one's reality. See Below.
"Every day, we make comparisons, which is another way of saying we make judgments. Sometimes this is done consciously and other times subconsciously.
Every comparison we make has two possible outcomes. Either we feel like we're better than someone else, or we feel like we're worse than the person we're comparing ourselves to. These comparisons take place in every aspect of our lives, whether it's how many kids we have, how much money we make, or even what level of spirituality or calling we have."
http://www.mormontimes.com/article/21357/Comparisons-are-nothing-more-than-judgments-that-damage-self-esteem
"If we feel we're always better than someone else, what sin are we committing? Obviously the "sin of pride," which, by the way, does not increase our self-worth but may give us an emotional lift. This boost, however, is short-lived because we cannot feel better about ourselves over the long term when the assumption is based on the misfortune of others. Having a nicer car or a bigger home than someone else will never bring us true happiness. It's an illusion that far too many people fall victim to."
"On the other end of the scale, we have comparisons that leave us feeling less than someone else. In my experience, this category of judgments is more prevalent and therefore more damaging. If I feel like someone else is more successful, better looking, more popular, has a nicer looking body or is a better parent because their kids are better behaved, then where does that leave me?
If you are up to the challenge, I suggest that you take time to assess your life. Take a look at the various categories that are important and meaningful to you, and then go back in time like the examples above. Be honest in your assessments, and you'll discover areas of growth and improvement. Be kind and acknowledge your success, and you will feel better. By the same token, take a look at areas where things are not going in the direction you would like. Make a commitment to formulate a plan of action, and you'll see great results. Sometimes we might need someone to help us along the way, like a mentor or a coach or just a "walking buddy."
Comparisons are nothing more than judgments that damage self-esteem. The author has written a book about this topic of marriage that promises to offer tools and thoughts that can change one's reality. See Below.
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