Why We Are Miserable When We Don’t Get What We Want

• Why We Are Miserable When We Don’t Get What We Want.   Do you find yourself having a "temper tantrum" either internally or externally when your "wants" are frustrated by not achieving a certain desired object or goal?  This opinion by Patricia Reed, a wonderful Energetic Master, offers insight as to why and how, as adults, we still react like a screaming baby when we don't get what we think we want.
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• "Waaaaah! Remember that sound? You used to make it, once upon a time, whenever you didn’t get what you wanted. We all did, didn’t we. Oh yes, we all certainly did. We made that sound when we wanted to eat and didn’t get instant gratification. We made that sound when we messed our diapers and didn’t get instantly cleaned up. We made that sound when something struck our curiosity, and we wanted to play with it, but were too little to reach it. And every time we let our parents know we were miserable, they came and gave us what we wanted."

"But when we began to get a little older, we had already been programmed from our births, that the key to getting what we wanted was to be miserable. And say “waaaah.” And so we continued to use that tactic to let our parents know that we wanted something. And our stressed-out parents pacified their own stress by pacifying us – by giving us what we wanted.

So all throughout our lives, we learned in our families, as our parents learned before them, and their parents before them, that the way to getting what we want is to be miserable. And guess what? It was wrong.

This teaches us to focus on what we don’t have as our means of getting it. But what nobody ever taught most of us is that focusing on not having what we want actually creates more of “not having what we want.” How so?"
http://wholehealthylife.com/mind/why-we-are-miserable-when-we-dont-get-what-we-want
"Our conscious mind is the seat of our will power and intent. Our greater unconscious mind is the creator of our reality and manifestor of what we focus on. Our subconscious minds are the bridge between our conscious thoughts, will, and intent, and our greater unconscious mind that creates and manifests our reality. Your unconscious mind doesn’t understand anything but what you are focused on. And as your greater unconscious mind is obedient to the Laws of Vibration and Attraction, it reliably goes out and creates and manifests for you exactly what you are focused on. So if you are focused on something you don’t want, or on not having something that you do want, then that is exactly what you get."


Why We Are Miserable When We Don’t Get What We Want.  This rang a number of bells in my own mind when I reflected upon my own psychodynamics of  meeting the challenge of frustrated "wanting".  Very insightful.